BEFORE YOUR I DO'S TURN INTO I DON'T WANT TO ANYMORE!

Remember those days when the butterflies were loosed in your stomach every time the phone rang because you knew who was on the other end of the line...it was your " boo."  Certain things came and went, including time and before you knew it (or maybe you did koew) the rings were purchased, the location was secured, the friends and family were contacted and in place, tuxes and dresses incomparable, hair done and all the vows exchanged.   Now, the deal is sealed and titles have changed.  JUST MARRIED!

Marriage can be tough.  Correction...,marriage is tough!  Patience, Endearment, Forgiveness, Intimacy, Children, Finances, Quality time, Present and Future decisions, Friends (mutual and otherwise), Personal Privacy, Intimacy, Intimacy, more Intimacy (outside and inside the bedroom), Domestic responsibilities of each person involved.  These are just a few subjects that need in depth  dialogue PRIOR to saying I do. The importance of these matters and how they play out to shape the present and future tense of a relationship, will always prove to be paramount in the outcome if ignored.  There must be open and honest dialogue with a willingness to listen before speaking.  As the old adage goes, "first seek to understand, then to be understood."  I know that harder to do, but is your life partner worth the full consideration of his/her feelings-whether you agree or disagree.

How much time will you make to hear out your mate and how much time will you dedicate to making a change to ensure they are happy or do you want someone else to listen to them whenever they have something to say?  Do you want someone else to become their best friend or will you ask yourself is there more I can do for my significant other.  Mind you, this is a 2 way street.  Look in the mirror and make a change.  Never wait on someone else to change before you decide to give them what you already know what they need.  If not, you can easily find yourself straying in the realm of "I Don't want to do this anymore" and with that preponderance of emotions and everything that could have been avoided long before your "I Do's," you won't.